I wasn't expecting this to be so emotional. Oil is a very brave guy. I see how the language that is so common and trendy in the UK can come across so strong and abusive in other cultures. It is a shame he was shut down and told to be quiet and treated as if he was being disrespectful when he was just being himself. Waking hand in hand with a boyfriend in many countries he would be seen as being disrespectful. It's a shame that he's being asked to conform to a the majority. Oli continue to be you and don't let such comments hold you back in life. If your siblings could for a second understand what hold backs you have they would seriously think twice trying to hold you back further. It's extremely clear you are a very kind, genuine guy. You're biological Father was wrong speak to you the way he did, perhaps it's a blessing in disguise he didn't raise you as you would be half the person today that you truly are.

From the title I wasn't expecting this to be such a beautiful, interesting, unique and touching documentary. It is not about the siblings but about the complexity of family relationships and life. The main character is very likeable and interesting. Beautifully made documentary from the BBC, which deserves more critical recognition.

Normally I might not have much sympathy for a middle class over - indulged 20 - something in achingly - hip Islington bemoaning his lot aided and abetted by his besotted mama, but Oli's somewhat fragilely constructed persona disintegrates entirely when confronted by his recently discovered half - siblings, a shouty, woke, self - obsessed bunch of Americans all of whom apparently were sired by the same sperm - donor, but have nothing else in common with this slightly camp young man whose English sense of irony is entirely wasted on them. So this vulnerable Asperger's sufferer was shouted at(his relies don't talk, they lecture) and reviled, ignored and finally snubbed by these Wasp clones to whom individuality was clearly original sin. Smoking desperately and just about holding himself together he ran off from a 'Get together' where he was obviously de trop and came back to England with his dignity intact. I hope this very nice young man has by now realised that you can choose your friends - but not your family.